February 22, 2017

HERE COMES THE BRIDE. NOW COUNT THE REST.

[On Monday, Jammu and Kashmir State issued an order that one official said was aimed at closing the gap between the rich and the poor. Under the new regulations, weddings will be capped at 400 to 500 guests and organizers can serve just 14 dishes — seven vegetarian and seven nonvegetarian options. Engagement parties would be capped at 100 guests, and penalties could be imposed on violators.]

By Ayesha Venkataraman and Nida Najar
Garima Pant, a bride, being escorted to the wedding hall by her relatives and bridal party in New Delhi in 2014. 
Jammu and Kashmir State in India has imposed new regulations capping the number of guests at weddings 
and engagement parties. Credit Daniel Berehulak for The New York Times
MUMBAI, India — A modern Indian wedding might include a dayslong celebration, ornate invitations, elephants covered in finery and a bride adorned in gold.

But in an effort to curb such extravagant spending, lawmakers in one Indian state have imposed new regulations to limit wedding celebrations to an intimate 400 or 500 guests.

Lavish multimillion-dollar weddings thrown by the country’s superrich have enraged the country’s poor, who are struggling with profound changes to the economy, including a cash crisis.

On Monday, Jammu and Kashmir State issued an order that one official said was aimed at closing the gap between the rich and the poor. Under the new regulations, weddings will be capped at 400 to 500 guests and organizers can serve just 14 dishes — seven vegetarian and seven nonvegetarian options. Engagement parties would be capped at 100 guests, and penalties could be imposed on violators.

“During the last 20 months we have been receiving complaints from the public that rich people are spending huge amounts during the marriages,” said Chowdhary Zulfkar Ali, the state minister for the Department of Food, Civil Supplies and Consumer Affairs. “Poor people were forced to spend the money on the marriage ceremonies of their daughters and sons.”

Though it would appear difficult to enforce the order, which will take effect on April 1, Mr. Ali said the government would issue penalties for noncompliance.

“Marriages can be stopped; the banquet hall can be seized,” he said. “They can be penalized and they can be imprisoned even if anybody violates the government order.”

The urge to mark weddings as lavish affairs is partly cultural, said Sonalde Desai, a sociologist at the University of Maryland and the National Council of Applied Economic Research in New Delhi who studies changes in Indian families, including marriage practices.

“For the bride’s family, there is the expectation that if they don’t pay for a really lavish wedding, their daughter will not be treated well in their marital homes,” she said.

But rising incomes have raised the ante of what lavish means in India, and the poor often take out loans to pay for weddings.

Jammu and Kashmir’s action was not the first official effort to rein in wedding spending. Ranjeet Ranjan, a member of Parliament from the impoverished Bihar State, has proposed a bill that would curb wedding expenditures nationally.

She hopes that the bill will be introduced in Parliament next month. It would set a limit on wedding expenses of 500,000 rupees, or about $7,500, a pittance for even a typical middle-class wedding.

Under Ms. Ranjan’s proposal, families who spend more than $7,500 would have to contribute one-tenth of the wedding’s costs to a fund that would go toward paying for the weddings of poor families.

Similar bills have been introduced in Parliament in the past, but none have passed. When Jammu and Kashmir tried to restrict the number of wedding guests in 2004, the order was stayed by the state’s High Court within days of its enactment, according to local news media.

“There is undue pressure from society to have a lavish wedding, even when you can’t afford it,” Ms. Ranjan said. “I’ve seen people spend a lifetime’s worth of money in two days.”


Ayesha Venkataraman reported from Mumbai, and Nida Najar from New Delhi.